At 32*, I wrote about not finding that fine line between between being a brand and being well, me. I never figured out which side to fall on. In fact, I’m more confused now than ever. I just habitually line step and hope for the best. There was a time when I could say what ...

We’re more than a decade into the 21st century. I’d hoped– in vain– that some basic understandings of how non-Black people should interact with Black people could be something I could take for granted. But no. Somehow there are “those people” who remain entirely clueless, so much so that they will call a 9-year old ...

Note: Please click the links in the article.  Ok, back to business.   Are you: Single? A Black woman? Over 15? If you answered “yes” to all of these questions, then you’re likely desperate to get married. College- educated? Oh, you’re definitely desperate. It doesn’t matter if you claim to have a boyfriend, a fiancé, you’re a lesbian, don’t want ...

(The Root) — With all the fuss over what’s keeping black women and black men from jumping the broom, black married couples have been lost in the fray. Yes, of course, they exist! In fact, the vast majority of black women and men do indeed get married.   Of course, many of us are putting ...

“What’s your take on men who refer to women as ‘females’? Dude hit me up on a dating site, and his profile, when describing what he’s looking for, referred to women as females through the whole thing. Why couldn’t he just say ‘ladies’ or ‘women’?”–D.F.   Some form of this question comes up on a ...

Adventures with White Man Leroy, Part 1 Adventures with White Man Leroy, Part 2   I have no idea what goes on at the pool. I can’t see it from the DJ booth. And even if I did know, I would not tell because what happens in Johannesburg – at least the wildest stuff—stays in Johannesburg. Anyway, ...

Adventures with White Man Leroy Part I is here 2013 is going to be the sh-t. I don’t know that for sure, but I’m trying to do what life coaches tell you to and speak my will into existence. It’s started off well-enough, anyway. On that rooftop in Johannesburg, we get wind of a house party ...

I’ve run off to South Africa the foreseeable future (up to 90 days). I bought a return ticket but it’s anybody’s guess as to whether I’m getting on the plane next week. That’s for two reasons. One, I like it here. There’s a similar vibe to what Brooklyn seemed like based on Spike Lee movies ...

“Where does the expression ‘hoes be winning’ come from? I never understood why so many women believe that only sucky women get good men. Am I naive? Can you clue me in?” –H.J.   Oh, where do I begin? I can’t pinpoint for the first use of the phrase, but I first began hearing it ...

Happy New Year!!!  Hey ya’ll. I’m back. I had a glorious holiday break. Hope you did the same.  I wrote a million blogs, but I’m posting them in the order I wrote them– which means you’ll get a New Year’s rant in about 12-15 days if I keep this up. I probably won’t. I’m feeling ...