Kanye West has lost his damn mind.   I thought that when he made an ode to Kim Kardashian calling her his “perfect bitch”, then announced she was pregnant for him—while she was still married to someone else— by calling her his “baby mama”. There was that short-lived campaign to get KK a star on the ...

I wish I could take credit for this one. It’s everything I’ve ever wanted to say, but notably didn’t put so cleanly, about the backlash to ‘Scandal’. Dear Urban Sophisticate, you won for this one!!!   “Our society also suggests that women live and navigate their lives by the directions of a moral compass created by ...

“My girlfriend and I are planning to visit my mother. She’s upset because my mother has told us we’ll have to sleep in separate rooms, since we are not married. My girlfriend says I let my mother push me around too much, but my mother has always had these rules. My girlfriend is now suggesting ...

Last week, former Detroit Mayor Kwame Kilpatrick was sentenced to 28 years in prison for corruption. Even though Kilpatrick’s name has become synonymous with corrupt politics, most people outside of Detroit don’t know the details of the case that landed Kilpatrick a conviction in March for racketeering conspiracy, fraud, extortion and tax crimes.   To some people, ...

In case you missed it: Part 1, Part 2  The morning I was supposed to be dressing for the brunch that like everybody would be at—except me—I got a call from my boy, the first one I mentioned. He was frantic. He wanted me to cross state lines and come visit him. A few months prior, he’d ...

The Other Side of the Game, Part 1 This happened: My boy, a different one, threw a brunch for his birthday a week after I got back from Miami. Me and three friends had gone down for a week—four of us in a double room at the “good” Marriott by Nikki Beach. We ate, drank, and ...

I have to give a nod to Boyce Watkins for putting me on to  “’25 Sitting On 25 Mill’: Why Rap Culture Is Ruining Our Generation’s Perception of Money”. Writer Jennifer Sanchez put into words an issue that I’ve thought about often, but for some reason I’ve never written about.   Sanchez (hilariously*) writes:   ...

Earlier this week the Washington Post published a list of “The 10 D.C. Guys We’ve All Dated.” It included “the chill Republican dude” who wears shirts with whales on them, “the organic kale guy” who makes homemade quiche and “the Clarendon guy” who downs shots of Fireball and never misses brunch. While I’m sure there are chill black Republicans ...

In case you missed it: Part 1, Part 2 In 2002, I’m back in the same position I was the summer of ’99. I moved to New York for graduate school, graduated, then couldn’t find a job so I moved back home to Maryland. I never unpack the boxes of my stuff because that would be like accepting ...

When I was 20, I studied abroad in London. But that’s not the part that matters (and I’ve told that story many times before), this is: the summer before I left for the UK, I was at a local electronics store in June, shopping for CDs and met a guy. I hadn’t handed out my ...