I see white people. Usually this wouldn’t be so significant. I live in New York City. They’re not the majority here, but they exist in significant numbers — 47 percent, in fact. These white people that I’m seeing now have caught my attention because of where I see them and how many of them I ...

“I know you don’t believe in discussing how many sexual partners you’ve had with someone you are dating, but what about if you are about to get married? Is that something that should be known — or, if your partner wants to know, should you discuss it?” –S.V. I’m not a fan of disclosing your number ...

What should I do about a guy friend I really love and care about — and I know he cares for me — who has said he doesn’t see me as his life partner? I am heartbroken and at a loss for words. Other folks see what I see whenever we are together. Should I ...

I went through my boyfriend’s phone and found out he’s been talking to his ex-girlfriend, who he told me he hadn’t been in contact with. He’s calling her pet names like “babe” and “sweetheart” — the same things he calls me — reminiscing about their past sex life, and the phone log shows they’ve been ...

I don’t like Girls. Revolutionary thought, right? I know. Since the HBO show’s premiere two weeks ago, I’ve read all types of moaning about the show, the story of four twenty-something brown-haired white women making a way and doing slightly better than Florida Evans in seemingly homogeneous Brooklyn. The prevailing complaint about the show has been ...

For some time, I’ve had a policy of not commenting on the posts I write. As a writer, I choose my words carefully, so that each conveys what I intend. Readers may take my meaning from it, or they may not. Each person brings their perspective to the screen and that naturally effects how they receive the message.  I ...

When I was 10 or so, my father won an all-expense paid trip to Senegal. “We’re going to Africa!” my mother gleefully exclaimed. So we took the Amtrak train to New York to fly out of JFK and ignored the warnings of a pending Nor’easter, thinking the sheer and desperate determination of three Black Americans ...

Last week’s episode of La La’s Full Court Life threw me for a loop. I became addicted to the show last season because La La Vasquez-Anthony was a different type of Black woman on reality TV: family-oriented and confident. And though she was very much a basketball wife, she wasn’t resting on her husband’s laurels. She was ...

The “men are intimidated by successful women” story is always touted as a reason many women are single. I didn’t believe it at all until it sort of happened to me recently. I’m in my early 20s, not discouraged but shocked. What’s your experience and take on this? –T.D. The truth about partnering is that ...

No one ever understood why Whitney Houston married Bobby Brown. Houston was a cultured pop princess with a golden voice, a perfect smile and polished demeanor, spit-shined by a large marketing and public relations machine (the same one she would eventually rage against). When Houston and Brown married in June 1992, she arrived at their ...