Never knew that love could hurt like this/ Never I thought I would/ but I got dissed… Before I heal it’s gonna be awhile/ I know it’s gonna be awhile chile’ - E . Badu, Phase 2, Green Eyes Anthony Hamilton sang about Charlene. John Legend sang about Maxine. Cody ChestnuTT sang about Michelle. They’re ...

A Discourse on Dating/ Shoot Me Now Chivalry is not dead. I saw it with my own eyes. A truck pulled up in front of my house. A 20-something man—in a hoodie, Timbs, and jeans got out and OPENED THE DOOR for his lady companion. In a fur-lined bubble jacket and jeans, she stepped out ...

New Yorkers—and after six years here, I consider myself one– are known for being pretty blasé about everything. In a city where there is so much going on, you train yourself not to react to anything unless it’s major. Still, we are some of the most observant people you’ll ever encounter. We listen, we watch, ...

If you’ve ever had more than a five minute conversation with me, you’ve heard me quote someone. I listen and retain even when it seems like I’m not paying attention. When something clicks, it stays with me. And I believe in paying homage to the many wise people who have taken the time to share ...

So Jay-Z makes the cover of LIFE magazine with the subheading “World’s Biggest Rap Star.” Hmm. He’s huge. He’s brilliant. No doubt. But world’s biggest? I look up the demographics for LIFE and it seems that Mommy, with the exception of being black, fits it pretty well. College educated, her household makes over 60K, she’s ...

  I’ve had this theory for awhile that men like “boring” women. And by boring, I mean women who might think too much but don’t ever say too much, certainly nothing controversial or challenging on most levels (admittedly this is a whole ‘nother blog to be completed shortly. Just thought I’d throw that in there ...

I started my one-woman tirade against Hustle & Flow when [a Black women's magazine] put Terrance Howard, a man who was playing the role of a pimp that tricked out two black women, on the cover. Perhaps it was because his “bottom bitch” in the movie was black (at least his heart was with the ...

Anybody know the cost of a date? Fellas? I wound up back at Tillman’s for a buh-bye party for a now-former editor. I bought a drink, the same one I’d had two of the previous evening. It was $12 for a chocolate martini. That’s about average for a NYC drink at a proper establishment in ...