About belle

Affectionately known as "Belle”, Demetria L. Lucas is the author of two books—  A Belle in Brooklyn and Don't Waste Your Pretty; the creator of the award-winning personal blog; and the founder of Coached By Belle, a boutique life-coaching service, where Demetria helps clients solve their dating dilemmas and build healthy relationships. Demetria is also a contributing editor for The Root, where she pens two weekly columns, and is a contributing writer for the websites of The Grio, XO Jane, Essence, Clutch, Vibe Vixen and Uptown. She currently stars in the Bravo TV docu-drama series, "Blood Sweat & Heels", which debuts Jan. 5, 9PM

My thoughts on Friday’s blog, which seemed to alarm a lot of people: Look in my eyes/ Tell me what you see/ Do you see perfection in me?/ To you, do I look complete?/ Now take one more look pass my celebrity/ That’s where you’ll find the real me/ To you, do I still look […]

I’m a little emotionally raw right now. I’ve been writing, but it’s like I lack the desire to clean up my thoughts or at the very least self-censor for the sake of self-preservation. (I’ll give ya’ll a lot, but not quite everything. And there are certain things I write about that I don’t post about.) […]

I’m so happy the writer’s are back, I don’t know what to do. I just watched Real Time with Bill Mahr and The New Rules have returned. It’s the funniest shit I’ve heard in a long time. Thank God for witty mofos who can flip a phrase, make parallels and allusions and just blast all over people […]

Part writing exercise (cause I just write for writing’s sake sometimes.) Part blog. I edit a monthly essay for work that always gets bumped back to me for revisions. Frankly, I’m not used to being edited so hard. I’m learning a lot. But fuck if growth isn’t hard. You’re just going to have to read […]

I’m on a new kick about how kids—and adults—learn. It’s the case lately that I am both teacher and student. Weird feeling. Forgive me if (and when) I ramble. Try to find a point and comment on it. I know I’m getting old because I’ve stated to get protective of kids. As I type, there’s […]

Who’s got down time? I do! I do!! It dawned on me just now that I never finished the man-survey. I had to go back and re-tally the number. Lost the Word document that had everything totaled up. As it turns out, all but two dudes gave women 2 inches taller than them a definitive […]

I went to two Erykah Badu outings last week– the taping for her VH1 Storyteller show, and then the listening for the new album New Amerykah the following night. I was moved at both events. Could hardly contain myself from the rapture I wanted to slip into at the show, especially when she performed “Me.” Just zoned […]

  aka “The Best 36 hours of My Life” (check the dates) 2:21pm 12/31/07 You ever just have one of those great days? Not because anything happens, per se; you just wake up feeling great! That’s how I feel today. I got up before noon for the first time in a week, cleaned my apartment […]

My friends and I have this saying that “we live on Main Street.” It sums up the idea that everyone Black and college-educated in New York all know each other. We thought it was just those who work in entertainment, but nope, all it takes is those two factors. There are no more than two […]

I’ve been posting all weekend. Go back and read. A friend of mine, Stephie, stopped by the office last week to do the rounds. While she was sitting at my desk, we got to talking about life and loves and she mentioned that her beau of 2 months hadn’t gotten her a 30th birthday present, […]