About belle

Affectionately known as "Belle”, Demetria L. Lucas is the author of two books—  A Belle in Brooklyn and Don't Waste Your Pretty; the creator of the award-winning personal blog; and the founder of Coached By Belle, a boutique life-coaching service, where Demetria helps clients solve their dating dilemmas and build healthy relationships. Demetria is also a contributing editor for The Root, where she pens two weekly columns, and is a contributing writer for the websites of The Grio, XO Jane, Essence, Clutch, Vibe Vixen and Uptown. She currently stars in the Bravo TV docu-drama series, "Blood Sweat & Heels", which debuts Jan. 5, 9PM

It was the case recently that Stars did something that upset me. Nothing major, but I was upset nonetheless. My usual reaction would have been to throw a small hissy fit, start an argument and if he didn’t say what I wanted to hear or even if he did and I was in a bad […]

We’re witnessing the democratization of celebrity. There’s the selfie phenomenon, and those impromptu photo shoots in which everyone seems to take part, even for the most unceremonious occasions. The exploitation of our ordinary lives is faciliated by Twitter, Instagram, YouTube and Facebook. Our lives are everywhere. Everyone is everywhere. Everyone is special, therefore no one […]

It’s a celebration! Join me on Sunday, Jan. 5 8-10PM in Brooklyn at Bedford Hall to watch the debut episode of  ”Blood, Sweat & Heels” on Bravo TV. If you can’t make the screening, make sure to tune in to Bravo on Sunday, 9/8c for the first episode.

Over the weekend, the New York Times published “A Reluctant Bride Conquers Her Fears” in its Weddings section. The story focused on a black couple who said “I do” on Dec. 14. It was a celebratory tale with a happy ending, but some women found themselves in tears before they finished. “I’m crying over this Demetria,” […]

“It amazes me the double standards of cheating: Friend cheated on wife; both their families more or less were upset but shrugged, expected her to stay/forgive. She then cheated two years later and everyone was screaming he should leave her. Why is a woman cheating more unforgivable?” —F.T. We live in a patriarchy that’s full of […]

I can’t say I’m all that surprised about the backlash against the folks who have been denouncing R. Kelly lately. I called on people who still supported him to rethink that position after the Village Voice interviewed Jim DeRogatis—the journalist who broke the story of R. Kelly’s sexual conduct with underage girls nearly 15 years […]

A woman wrote in yesterday to say that her husband’s ex girlfriend had asked him to be the godfather of her new baby. Hub’s Ex has asked him to be God-dad to her 6wk old son. The same Ex that caused problems when he and I got together, the same Ex that I told him to […]

So… I am convinced that R. Kelly’s publicist secretly hates him and is masterminding his downfall. First, that completely illogical #askrkelly hashtag last week that basically just gave bored at work people a reason to go-all-the-way in for jokes. And now this radio interview… sorta. Village Voice runs basically a “Death to R. Kelly’s Career” story […]

I lack the energy–at the present time– to do a full “In Defense of Beyonce’” post, though as the writing around this album gets more ridiculous by the day, I’m sure I’ll be inspired to string something together out of sheer frustration soon.   In the meantime, I need to say this: Ya’ll do realize that […]

If you’re reading this, you have an Internet connection. And because you have said connection, then you are undoubtedly aware that Beyoncé Knowles released an album out of nowhere last week on Friday. For the better part of the last 96 hours, the Internet has been going HAM about Beyoncé, the person and super-secret album of […]